ONE SPIRIT COMMUNITY

By Kerrie Dancing Butterfly

What is the health of your family relationships?  Love them, ignore them, tolerate each other or talk every day?  Does the prospect of spending time with your blood family excite you are agitate you?  Your family memories may likely be woven with laughter as well as tears, support as well as judgment. Over the years I have found that my family has in every way imaginable brought great wisdom, humility and joy to my life.  In my family we had immense laughter right along with intense hair pulling, hurtful name- calling followed by competitive Monopoly games, aggravated yelling as well as helpful math tutoring.  Every experience brought lessons to me that has transformed and evolved the core of my being.

The family bloodline that you were born into is perfectly tailored to assist you in your personal growth and evolution.  It doesn’t matter which story you have about your family, each member has a specific purpose in your life to teach you vital life lessons and train you for the trials and triumphs ahead. If you feel tense around any of your family members, than you have more to learn.  Maybe a bully in the family will teach you about boundaries, compassion and inner peace.  Perhaps having different lifestyle preferences in the family (Spiritual, health, diet, sexuality) brings forth the lessons of tolerance, self-respect and understanding the value of diversity.

Contrary to popular belief, our family is NOT here to provide everything we need nor give us all the love we desire. We as human beings are here to learn how to provide for ourselves, love & respect ourselves and learn how to unconditionally love those around us.  To come to this level of self-awareness and love embodiment, it will take some training. What better teachers than those that have chosen to be karmically linked to you this lifetime?  Family will provide much support, encouragement and love in various forms along your journey.  Different family members will choose to play the clown, villain or ally to create a certain dynamic to show you something deep that you need to see.  Some of the trials will be joyful and others will be difficult; family will be there until you get it right. You are coded to grow and expand, which is exactly why you cannot just walk away from family.  Giving up on a family member means you are giving up on developing an aspect of yourself.  You are bonded with them to learn lessons of how to truly love, how to know yourself and how to be compassionate and tolerant of other’s choices. Family is a tremendous gift and resource for awakening leaders.  If you can heal your family ties and allow the deep bonds to teach and liberate you, then you will know true love.  Open your heart and connect deeply with your family and the gifts you will receive will be better than any Christmas morning.